My story on life

A time comes in life when in the midst of all the tears, fears and insanity a voice inside one`s head cries out-”time for a change of direction”. One realizes that fighting and crying, or struggling to hold onto things, ideas, beliefs and outdated things that are of no value any more are just insanity. One realizes that the incessant crying is of no value either. Thus, the time arrives when one needs to shake one`s self and dust one`s self off and see the world through a new pair of eyes, on a new path.

This is the “ transformation phase”, a metamorphosis of sort-the merging butterfly from the cocoon. A step up to the next rung of consciousness or to a more panoramic vision of existence. A realization descends upon one that it is time to change all previous thoughts and convictions. A new paradigm is arising, it has actually arrived. Hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety, security to come will never never happen-one needs to come to terms with it, which is the first step. Step two, is that it will only happen if one creates it- actually do something about it. Suddenly there is a realization that there is no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, and that life needs action to work. 

The real world is an illusion with endings and beginnings that we ourselves write. Remember “The Alchemist”? All control belongs to us. All events, all twists and turns in life -but remember ”be careful for what you wish for; for you may just get it” steps in here. All begins with “I” and in the process, a sense of peace, joy, acceptance and manifestation happens. One needs to see the truth that one can help save the world to some degree, but it is not always possible. One needs to learn to deal with evil in its most primal state- which is “ego”. All negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment should be redirected or they will suffocate the life out of one and poison the universe that surrounds us. Admitting when one is wrong, taking responsibility that enhances spirit. Never burn those bridges, just forgive and forget.

None of us are perfect-but one can strive to be the best one can ever be, through that process one generates happiness within the heart and soul. One needs to accept the fact that one shall never be loved by everyone, neither shall one be appreciated by all every time. So what? Who cares about who thinks what. One should never blame others for anything,-just get over it and cast all the crap to the wind. However forgiveness is the greatest of all virtues. Holding grudges is not worth the effort or energy. Acceptance, self approval, self confidence and self love is the main basis for being happiness and contentment. Self reliance, self esteem, self worth are very uplifting and satisfying. Standing on one`s own feet gives one a sense of power, security and the feeling of well being. Honesty, compassion and integrity are still important values in the world today-one needs to cultivate it through daily actions.

Judging others and carrying emotional baggage is a huge burden to carry-one needs to let it go . Purging and discarding all the emotional junk, thoughts, fears from life is as necessary for both body and spirit. The latest ads to sell things, the latest craze, the latest fads, the latest fashion are all transitory. None of us will take anything with us once we leave this earthly realm. Behaving and acting as to what spirit dictates  not as to what the modern world dictates is the real way-shower. One needs to realize that there is a major difference between need and want, and to know that difference. Having more stuff is not necessarily more satisfying. Looking within, not without as to what one has outgrown, be that people, beliefs, values or thinking should be recognized-things that are outdated in one`s life one needs  to go. Allow and give it permission  to float away. No matter what happened revenge is never an option-as it does have a boomerang affect.

It is true that life  is all about love. However one needs to learn that it is far more divine to give than to receive, especially without wanting anything in return. That is real love, without ties-entirely unconditional. What one sends out comes back many times-law of karma. Love needs to be learnt and cultivated be that romantic love or familial love. How to love, how much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away one needs to learn. 

The last one is real hard, as we cling to it through sweet memories, the great feelings it generates within us,  and the romance of it. Realistic look at relationships as they really are, need to be seen, and not desire as one would love to have it. That is the eternal truth-though one rebels against it at times. Situations and outcome cannot be controlled, people cannot be changed, one can only change one`s self. Time shows that people grow and change, so it is with love. Everyone deserves to be treated with love, kindness, sensitivity and respect and one should not settle for less-love can never be demanded. One should be cherished for “total self” in every sense, for all else, it is worthless and not love. 

Love as with all aspects of life has to be on our own terms first, never on an other`s needs or wants. Real deep love is a compromise, understanding  and a total balance. Do I believe this is possible-I do. As all my relationships have been positive-whether it continued or not-it all has been a loving, and a memorable experience forever -and I still love deeply all the people whom I loved and who have loved me. Love is eternal, however at a certain time one needs to just bless it and allow it to go until the meeting of souls the next time.

One needs to writes one`s own legend-that is our inheritance. The universe has a plan, God is always with us, He is always right and He always has a reason for everything.