Differences

There are no two human beings alike-even identical twins, for their personality, reactions to the world and behavior may be completely different. This is even more so with our children-we tend to hope that they are our “mini me”, and will not follow the mistakes of our path, but learn from them. However-we only learn from our own experiences, sadly. We want the best for them, shield them from the pain, but that only seldom works for some.

One can only do the best we can-and allow them to find their way; we all have our mission and one never knows what that is unless one walks in that persons shoes. One can give advice, but then what is the guarantee that that advice is the best and good for the entire outcome. All we can do is do our best, the rest is out of our hands.

All this came to mind my best friend from grade school is contemplating to change the path of their lives completely-giving up life as they had known in South Africa and move to England. Her daughter and family  had moved there two years ago, and are doing extremely well.  She is continually in touch with her on Skype-and they have visited England three times already, always with high hopes. Each time they get there are huge fights-they are totally different personalities, and no matter how they try they cannot get it together. They are like oil and water.

This is often with many of us-but one just allow things to go and let fate play out its cards. She has now decided to stay in South Africa and move to the Cape, where it is much safer for white people than in Johannesburg is all in total chaos regarding safety. Life is high anxiety all the time. Paradise lost for a long time before it maybe regained.

Our children are reflection of us-but not us, the way they conduct their live-but we cannot control their behavior or judgments or way of living. Looking back one can see where one went wrong, but when one is young we do not listen-and that sets the path for the rest of our lives.

We are in fact all alone in this world, one individual soul along its path back to “Source”-we we just graced by bringing an other soul into the world-but we are not responsible for them, their behavior once they have grown up. Each have their “dharma” and that was decided a very long time ago. We are unique, special and different for any other soul, though we are all connected, in the “one” from the “one” -and that is why we make up the tapestry of creation because of our differences.